After having such a shitty year last year due to family and personal issues I was on such a mission to make 2015 my best year, so far I feel like I'm succeeding pretty well, I have a brilliant and loving boyfriend, I have a new job which I love and feel so appreciated for the work I do, I just generally for the first time in ages feel really good about life.
With my new founded loving I want to share some top tips how to break free from the restraints of misery and to revive your life full of love and passion.
Reassess your work situation
As much as I love my job, I knew I needed to leave and find a forever job, there is only so long you can work in a call centre carrying out the same telephone triage over and over again and getting next to no recognition for how much you work your arse off. The shifts were absolutely killing me, 6am to 5pm, 8pm to 6am and three weekends off in 10 weeks wasn't doing me or my relationship the world of good, don't get me wrong, I know people have it a lot worse than me, but from personal preference I just wanted a lovely Monday to Friday job where I received some form of recognition for the work I do and be able to spend some actual quality time with my boyfriend. Low and behold, the perfect job came along, Monday to Friday 8am - 5pm and the best staff to work with. Just the idea of changing my career has completely changed my outlook.
Think about what sort of relationship you are looking for
Whether you are single or in a relationship, from personal experience one of the most important things to do is to be happy in yourself before you commence in any relationships, don't mould yourself to someone else desires, be who you are, if you're pretending to be someone else they clearly don't love you. This doesn't even just apply to romantic relationships, if you have anyone in your life who you feel is toxic towards you, always sucking the life out of you, knocking you down and pouring negativity everywhere, that is someone you could do without in your life. Have a complete cleanse of people you don't need in your life who doubt you and everything you do.
Body Image
Back on the previous subject really, but don't change yourself (once again) for someone else, I felt really unhappy with my body image because I didn't feel like I had quite found myself as of yet, I'd quite like to drop a few pounds but I don't feel like that idea really dictates my life anymore, it will happen when the time is right but for the time being, love yourself, all lumps and bumps included. Find a style which you feel is you, you can obviously find inspiration from celebrities, bloggers, public figures, but make sure you aren't replicating that person and trying to become them, be you. I feel like my personal image, my loves and my hates are a massive mish mash of lots of people, I love cute girly dresses and big clumpy shoes, I hate conforming to what everyone else wears, why do you want to look the same as someone else, I would rather to be known as weird, unique and unusual than a clone.
Lead a life of excitement
Now I can completely appreciate not everyone can financially afford to do all the things I do (even I can't) but arrange things to look forward to, whether it is going to the beach, the arcades, the cinema or ice skating, DO SOMETHING, I always tell people, the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to spend time in the same room but actually not interacting with each other, it makes you feel lonely and makes you feel like that person isn't interested in you. I have lots of events to look forward to, to list a few; Papa Roach, Derren Brown, Dylan Moran, System of a Down, a week holiday in Portugal and Reading Festival. It's all well and good working your arse off but make sure you set time a side for you, especially if you have a partner, go out for dinner together, PUT AWAY YOUR MOBILES, actually listen to each other, actually spend time with each other, but always make sure you have time for yourself and friends, sometimes relationships can be a bit full on, you need time for you to be an independent person as well as a couple.
I could go on and on, but you all get the idea, make a list of all of the things that make you unhappy, why it makes you unhappy and what you can do to change it, but most importantly, be pro active about it.
All my love,
Bex
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