Turning over a new leaf

So to my previous blog post this will probably be quite similar, but it's more based upon personal goals for me that may or may not be adaptable for yourself.

Due to starting a new job NEXT MONDAY, I know it's come around quick, I've decided this is a prime time opportunity to turn over a new leaf, now I think quarter year resolutions are slightly unusual but I was so shit at sticking to my new year's resolution, plus you don't need to wait a whole year to change yourself for the better.

I would thoroughly encourage the idea of a quarter year resolution, just to review what you have acheived so far through the year (got a new job and got my self into a good mental health situation) and what I wish to achieve within the next three months.

So here it begins:

1. Join the gym - It's all well and good working out at home, more than good to be fair, but sometimes you need to be in an environment where everyone has the same target and mind set as you, and of course you're not surrounded by cakes and biscuits.
2. Settle in to my new job  - Seems a bit obvious I know, but it's a bloody lot of information to take on, so many new things to learn and I want to focus a lot of my efforts on excelling in this job.
3. Get a new hairstyle  - As before in my previous blog post, don't change your appearance for anyone but yourself. Now I have missed my purple hair for quite some time, I was thinking of getting ombre hair to be more natural, but I'm too attached to looking like a grape. Plus my hair is in absolute dire need of a trim, probably not going to go for any dramatic change cut wise as I'm trying to grow it out again.
4. Get clearer skin - I've been saying this forever, but I'm so crap at sticking to a skin care routine, I'm sometimes too lazy or too tired to even take my make up off before bed, grim I know. The Lush, skin care products are the way forward so I will try and set up a skin care routine, stick to it and report back in three months with my results.
5. Lose a bit of weight - As before with my previous post, I am perfectly happy with my figure at the moment, doesn't mean I can't improve on it though, I am unfortunately classed as being over weight, not dramatically, but slightly. So I would just like to lose a couple of stone just to get me back into the safe zone of a healthy and happy weight.
6. Exercise at least three times a week  - Now something really needs to be done about my diet and exercise, I get out of breath climbing the stairs for christ sake, so the aim is to exercise at least three times a week if not more, hopefully going to take badminton back up as well.
7. Cut down on fast food  - Once again relating to diet and exercise, if you saw my bank statements, it's not great, it's predominately fast food transactions, I'm trying to save up for a house at the moment so maybe not getting McDonald's five times a week (exaggerated) might help me financially as well as health and diet wise.
8. Sort out my finances  - Also relating to previous post, I want to try and save up more money, stop spending so much money on crap and generally just try and be a bit more financially savvy by making pack lunches rather than eating out and so on.
9. Get whiter teeth  - Something I've been trying to do for a while but really half arsing it and not really fully committing to it, so going to try a whitening session once or twice a week, once again, report back progress in three months.
10. Take up Yoga  - Also something I've been meaning to do for a while and still not really committed to it, I really feel like when I actually do Yoga, it helps with my back problems, calms my anxiety, tones my body and just generally makes me feel pretty fantastic, so I'm hoping to stick to it.

So these are ten things I hope to achieve over the next three months, I will do another quarter resolution review and report back with my results and other things I hope to achieve this year.

All my love,

Bex

Breaking free from being mundane

Ever feel like you're just stuck in a slump, like you can't actually figure out what is making you feel so unhappy with your current situation but you know something is not right.

After having such a shitty year last year due to family and personal issues I was on such a mission to make 2015 my best year, so far I feel like I'm succeeding pretty well, I have a brilliant and loving boyfriend, I have a new job which I love and feel so appreciated for the work I do, I just generally for the first time in ages feel really good about life.

With my new founded loving I want to share some top tips how to break free from the restraints of misery and to revive your life full of love and passion.

Reassess your work situation

As much as I love my job, I knew I needed to leave and find a forever job, there is only so long you can work in a call centre carrying out the same telephone triage over and over again and getting next to no recognition for how much you work your arse off. The shifts were absolutely killing me, 6am to 5pm, 8pm to 6am and three weekends off in 10 weeks wasn't doing me or my relationship the world of good, don't get me wrong, I know people have it a lot worse than me, but from personal preference I just wanted a lovely Monday to Friday job where I received some form of recognition for the work I do and be able to spend some actual quality time with my boyfriend. Low and behold, the perfect job came along, Monday to Friday 8am - 5pm and the best staff to work with. Just the idea of changing my career has completely changed my outlook. 

Think about what sort of relationship you are looking for

Whether you are single or in a relationship, from personal experience one of the most important things to do is to be happy in yourself before you commence in any relationships, don't mould yourself to someone else desires, be who you are, if you're pretending to be someone else they clearly don't love you. This doesn't even just apply to romantic relationships, if you have anyone in your life who you feel is toxic towards you, always sucking the life out of you, knocking you down and pouring negativity everywhere, that is someone you could do without in your life. Have a complete cleanse of people you don't need in your life who doubt you and everything you do. 

Body Image

Back on the previous subject really, but don't change yourself (once again) for someone else, I felt really unhappy with my body image because I didn't feel like I had quite found myself as of yet, I'd quite like to drop a few pounds but I don't feel like that idea really dictates my life anymore, it will happen when the time is right but for the time being, love yourself, all lumps and bumps included. Find a style which you feel is you, you can obviously find inspiration from celebrities, bloggers, public figures, but make sure you aren't replicating that person and trying to become them, be you. I feel like my personal image, my loves and my hates are a massive mish mash of lots of people, I love cute girly dresses and big clumpy shoes, I hate conforming to what everyone else wears, why do you want to look the same as someone else, I would rather to be known as weird, unique and unusual than a clone.

Lead a life of excitement

Now I can completely appreciate not everyone can financially afford to do all the things I do (even I can't) but arrange things to look forward to, whether it is going to the beach, the arcades, the cinema or ice skating, DO SOMETHING, I always tell people, the worst thing you can do in a relationship is to spend time in the same room but actually not interacting with each other, it makes you feel lonely and makes you feel like that person isn't interested in you. I have lots of events to look forward to, to list a few; Papa Roach, Derren Brown, Dylan Moran, System of a Down, a week holiday in Portugal and Reading Festival. It's all well and good working your arse off but make sure you set time a side for you, especially if you have a partner, go out for dinner together, PUT AWAY YOUR MOBILES, actually listen to each other, actually spend time with each other, but always make sure you have time for yourself and friends, sometimes relationships can be a bit full on, you need time for you to be an independent person as well as a couple. 

I could go on and on, but you all get the idea, make a list of all of the things that make you unhappy, why it makes you unhappy and what you can do to change it, but most importantly, be pro active about it.

All my love,

Bex